Monday, July 22, 2019

What is LOVE and WHEN can it HAPPEN? - Culture

It is  a question that has been asked for centuries, what is LOVE, is it mental connection, lust, context, or is it destined.   This blog will discuss the case of Edward and Marie ( names changed to protect identity ).   Edward used to have red hair when he was young, and was fat and had BAD TEETH.  Edward in Junior School was in the slow class, he was not good at any subject, with the exception of History.  YOU ask when does Marie come come in to the article, that requires context, Edward and Marie were born a day apart at the same small hospital, and their mothers stuck a friendship, the Hospital did not have  a lot of cots, thus Edward and Marie shared the same cot.   Over the years, Edward's mother would remind him that he shared a cot with Marie, if fact it quite annoyed him.  Marie lived outside the town, so they did not meet in their early years.

As it was a custom in the 1980s, those going from Junior School would be taken to the Secondary School to see it, well the day arrived, Edward to this day recalls the day, he was only 11, there was Terry Wogan on the radio, this was before Breakfast TV, well before anything really, no wifi, no mobile phones, no blogs, and of course people had black and white TV with three chanel's.   The day started with Edward's mother calling him down for breakfast, it was normally tea and toast or porridge, must it admit it was rather nice porridge, warm, filled you up and nice tea ( that has not changed, tea is still the best ).   This was a day Edward had dreaded, he was going to visit his new Secondary School, Edward in fact had wanted to stay in his junior school, at least he knew everyone, well those in his class.   Before going off to School, his mother reminded him that he should be on the lookout for Marie, Edward thought she would mention that FACT.  The walk, and people walked, from the junior school, down the deep lane, cross the zebra crossing, down the bridge, and through the local Park to the School ( let's call it Chairhouse School ), Edward and his friends, reached the gate, the school was up a semi long hill, so we marched in order and then we were there, our home from  the next six years.   At first we were taken around the classes, only our group, the group that included Edward, he could recall the smell, everything was fresh, or felt like it, everyone was in school uniform ( Edward would learn to love that uniform, it gave order to his life, Edward was only 11 but he knew order when it saw it, and liked it, he understood, the best days of your life was school, formatted, classes, breaks, lunch and then home, no worries about taxes and getting a job.

At the end of the walking session around the classes, we were taken to see the gym, that was not something Edward wanted to see, as stated, he was fat and he found sports a bore, his father was the great sportsman, singer, popular, Edward might look him, strong DNA there, but he was the complete opposite, and did not try to compete, you are still wondering about MARIE, we are getting there, then as stated we came to the gym, we were told to stand by the walls, in groups, I look to see the names on the badges the school had given us, then I saw the name and looked up.  It was fair to say Edward felt like a mountain had fallen on him, he just knew he was in LOVE with her, he had not spoken to her, she did not seem to notice him, that was good, as Edward when embarrassed went red and with red hair that looked bad.  Edward could not take his eyes off her, she was tall, red hair and green eyes, the perfection of love.

As of that point Edward could not wait to get to Secondary School, he just wanted to see her, she was all he would think about for five years.   Edward being shy, fat and with red hair was VERY SHY, in five years he seemed to make it plain that Marie was the one for him, since he had told no one, it just seem to come out.   Thus for next five years Edward always gave a her birthday present and christmas, without saying anything, these days we would call that staking, well this was the 1980s, we did not have behind the bike sheds as they had in the OLD DAYS, well the 1960s and our school was poor.  So question dead reader, was this LOVE, LUST or just GROWING PAINS.   This blogger likes to think it was LOVE, in its purest form, the only time the School bully really hurt Edward, was when he while pushing Edward harshly by  a door stated  that Marie had asked him out, in the nearly six years of violence, was the only time Edward felt hurt.  On the hand, Edward was happy that Marie had asked him out, this showed that his romantic quest had not touched on her ability to have  a good time and get on with her life.  

Thus the lesson is it does not matter when you fall in love, if your 11 to 60, you need to make your feelings known, what can happen, you are told to get lost, saves time,  five a years is a long time to be doing a romantic quest, that might be a delsion.   Also you fall into trap of falling for someone again, when your in Uni and do the same thing, so learn from this lesson.   Here endeth the LESSON. 

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